How Can New Bloggers Avoid The Naughty List?

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Guest Post By Mary Katherine Backstrom of Mom Babble

I remember starting out in the blogging world with a shiny new WordPress site and the world at my fingertips. Blog hops and giveaways were my bread and butter, and I watched my 450 followers tick up (or down) like a hawk. I met a few like-minded bloggers and we formed a little tribe of support. We learned from one another’s successes and mistakes, and a year later, many of us had experienced positive growth. We established solid followings and refined our voices, and even got published on major, paying websites.

But some of us boarded up the windows after two months. 

What was the difference between those who succeeded and those who failed? Well, some of it was probably talent, commitment, life getting busy — or the all-too-common burn out. Wrestling for a niche in the blogosphere can be exhausting! 
But some blogs fizzled out for a different reason. They spent their first few months unintentionally kicking anthills and committing major writer faux pas. Awkward self-promotion, selfish sharing habits…an accumulation of mistakes that landed them on Santa’s Naughty Bloggers List. You see, when you’re on the naughty list, it isn’t long before your website and page are a big, fat lump of coal.
How Can New Bloggers Avoid The Naughty List? - Beyond Your Blog Guest Post By Mary Katherine Backstrom of Mom Babble
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So, how do new writers avoid the Naughty Bloggers List? Here are ten tips from my little tribe of writing Good-Listers.

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1) Do not share writing without permission or proper credit.This is the most basic “Thou Shalt Not Steal” commandment of the writer’s world, but it can unintentionally be broken by a well-meaning newbie. NEVER copy and paste an entire article to reshare from your blog…this isn’t a favor. It’s called “scraping” and it’s considered theft, even with attribution. – MK of Mom Babble.
2) Do not share images without permission or proper credit. This happens way more frequently, because meme etiquette is largely ignored by the general social media populace. Well, guess what? You are a writer now, so more is expected of you. NEVER crop a meme or save the image for direct sharing. Share a fun image from the blogger’s page OR ask permission to save the image and share it with their page tagged. But always, ALWAYS ask permission…or beware the naughty list! – MK of Mom Babble.


3) Never link and run.  Example: “Ha! I just wrote about this too!” Don’t leave your blog posts in comments. Whether it’s a blog hop/ party or a Facebook group share thread. It’s not polite. Remember the Golden Rule! – Alexandra Rosas of Good Day, Regular People
4) The Liebster Award is NOT an award. It’s the blogger version of a chain letter (and most people don’t like chain letters) – Lauren of Oh, Honestly!
5) Don’t mimic. Say something different. Whether it’s a unique perspective, or special circumstance, get people thinking from a different point of view. – Alison of Appetite for Honesty (And yes, we all write about the same things and that’s okay. But copying style and voice is really lame. Why are you doing this if not for self-expression?)
6) You know what they say about “assume”?  Don’t preemptively do things, then awkwardly demand reciprocity. “Dear person I don’t know, I just shared x, so share this for me.” NO. Just, no. – Alison of Sparkly Shoes and Sweatdrops
7) Don’t bitch to your audience about your Facebook reach. For example: “I hate Facebook! My last post got shown to exactly thirteen of you. THIRTEEN out of 2,743. If you want me to keep showing up in your newsfeed, make sure you do blahblahblah at the top of the page.” The people who will see that post are those that already like and comment on your page, but they won’t continue to do so if you complain about how their participation isn’t enough. Don’t be greedy–if you work hard at growing your following and remain patient, you will find your audience. – Melissa of OMTA.
8) Don’t submit to multiple sites...then wait for the highest bidder before retracting your offer. Especially if edits have been made. Follow through with your commitments. There is value in exposure to a new audience and building relationships with smaller sites. – Bonnie of Unrestrained Laughter
9) NEVER forget those who helped you along the way. Don’t step on fellow bloggers on your way up, you may need them to catch you if you fall. – Michelle of Juicebox Confession
10) Don’t forget that blogging is a community… and everything that goes with it. You’d be amazed who knows whom in this surprisingly small world, and there’s always someone who knows someone who is reading your page. Put your best foot forward at all times! – Jennifer, freelance editor. jdoradat(at)gmail(dot)com
And for goodness sake, stay off the Santa’s Naughty Blogger List.

MKBMary Katherine Backstrom – Mary Katherine is the founder of Mom Babble. She resides in the Sunshine State with her husband (Ian) and son (Nugget). She’s a southern mom with strong opinions and a messy home. Her writing can be seen on Scary Mommy, Coffee + Crumbs, Mamapedia, and more….but Mom Babble is her home. Follow Mom Babble on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter


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10 Comments on “How Can New Bloggers Avoid The Naughty List?”

  1. THis is an excellent post. Lots of great tips that made me nod my head in agreement and laugh too. And oh, by the way, I just wrote this post on my blog about…. hahaha, just kidding.

  2. I really appreciated your suggestions. But though I know one shouldn’t publicize (or even mention) their own website when commenting, how does one ever get others to read your blog? I hardly ever see places like the ones here that asks for website &/or email–so I’ve almost given up on posting anything on my own blog. (In fact, I’ve lots of stuff I’d like simply for people to read & (hopefully)enjoy–but don’t want to do that if nobody’s gonna see it, because once I post it, I won’t be able to submit it anywhere. Will appreciate any help I can get on that matter.

    1. Great question! When I started my personal blog in 2013, I had barely any readers for months. I was ready to quit before I found that there were opportunities to post my content to other sites (especially those that have lots of readers!). That is what lead me to create this website which helps bloggers submit their writing and get published on other sites. I’d suggest maybe starting with a site like, where you can go right now, set up and account for free, and re-post content that you have already posted on your personal blog. This just lets more eyes get on it, and potentially some of those will check out your site as well. Sometimes a BlogHer section editor will like what they see and contact you to let you know they are featuring it (featuring it prominently on the section page, promoting on social media, adding a preview photo, sometimes including in their newsletter etc.). When that happens, you often see residual traffic to your site as well as social likes etc. Over time, this can really add up. I had a post that had a few hundred views on my personal site, but when BlogHer featured it, it was viewed 30,000 times there and I gained lots of new likes/follows with some residual traffic over to my site. There are TONS of other places to submit your writing and be published, from small sites to places like HuffPost. Some are very competitive, and others not, but they are great for exposing your writing to more readers and getting new readers and followers to your own blog. The Submission Opportunities link in the header of this page contains tons more organized by niche. Cheers!

  3. I have to tell you that I somehow stumbled across the “BAM” conference page while searching for something over 50 and was stunned that a conference like that existed, that’s how I came across your site… btw I added you to my Bloglovin feed even though I didn’t see your button here:) I don’t want to miss a post. I have to say i’m an over 50 blogger and I need to get out of my comfort zone and start networking cause pretty much no one knows I exist!

    1. Yay! I will be speaking at BAM this year and am so excited! There really has not been a conference like it before, as far as the focus on bloggers liek us — women in midlife. It is one of the best conferences I have ever been to. I hope to see you there this year!

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